442 – Facing Your Insecurities – Draw Them Out into the Light!

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442 – Facing Your Insecurities – Draw Them Out into the Light!

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We all have insecurities.

Most of the time we don’t have the courage to look at them honestly. We don’t talk about them, we don’t admit them, we don’t even think about them. We push them down and just struggle on.

I’ve already talked about a few specific, common insecurities before: People don’t like us, we’re not good enough, we “deserve” to be around toxic people and places, holding onto the negative, and judging yourself for how fast you’re progressing.

What if I told you none of these, nor any other insecurity, is as scary as it seems?

I want to teach you a super simple exercise I did recently that will bring all of your insecurities to light and make them much more manageable.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 442 of The 7 Minute Mentor.

The Simple “Magic” Exercise That Makes Your Insecurities Beatable

You can’t face all your collective self-doubt at once. Instead, break it down and you can tackle each chunk, one at a time.

Sit down and make a big ass list of all your insecurities. Every single one. Nothing’s too minor or too big.

You can make it about a specific problem and this will be even more practical. Do you want to make a change in your life but you feel blocked about it? Do you feel a generalised anxiety about it? That’s no help to us. Let’s make it specific.

Take a sheet of A4 paper and split it up into columns:

1. 1st Column: List your fears/insecurities/frustrations about making the change.

2nd Column: List what you want from your life, what you want from this looming change, and what it would look like if it all went to plan.

It’s f*cking uncomfortable, but it’s like turning the light on in a big scary room and realising there’s nothing to be afraid of.

Unless you hold up a mirror and look at your insecurities deeply, you won’t get past them. They just keep on running you. It’s like walking into an AA meeting and saying, “I am an alcoholic.” The admission of the problem is a crucial first step.

By admitting it, you define it. By defining it, you’ve put edges around the problem. Once it has edges, you can see it and deal with it.

How I Used This Exercise For Myself

I’m about to make some changes in my life.

I’ve been in the same place for a long time, probably because I’m a big family person. I’ve got a routine that I like and is doing well for me, but how long do I stay in it?

It’s time to make a change. I don’t want to look back and think that I’ve wasted years in a single routine and place without seeing what else is out there.

Problem is, I feel blocked about it. Instead of trying to pump myself up with cheesy positive mantras or some other bullsh*t, I listed all my fears.

I took out a piece of paper and broke it into the columns mentioned above:

1. What are my fears/insecurities/frustrations with my current routine?

What do I want from my life? What do I want from a change, and what would it look like?

I quickly produced about 20 to 30 fears and insecurities! It’s amazing how fast they pour out if you’re not afraid of admitting them. There’re not much to be worried about in the end.

Once I’d finished writing, I compared what I wanted against my insecurities. As I did that… holy sh*t, it was like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

I had the most emotionally vibrant weekend that I’ve had for a long time. I’d shifted all that stress and pressure, looked at it in the light of day and realised that there’s nothing to be afraid of.

All my insecurities pale in comparison to what I want to achieve in life.

It’s like Monsters Inc. Sully and Mike scare kids for a living, but it turns out they’re not dangerous. They’re just these big, soft, cute things!

Insecurities are ridiculous, toothless paper tigers. They only have as much power as you give them, and they find it much easier to manipulate you from the darkness. You have to look at them fully in the light of day.

You’ll easily see there’s nothing to be afraid of.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook – 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

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